What is couple or relationship counseling?
My focus in relationship counseling is on improving communication and problem-solving skills, understanding relationship patterns, increasing empathy and emotionally engage towards one another, which improves the sense of connection between partners. This work can feel more focused and results-oriented than individual therapy may seem at times.
Most couples come to me seeking hope, healing and repair of a relationship that has experience some damage and distress. We can work on healing your relationship and learn better way for you to connect and feel heard and valued. But some people seek couples counseling because they need help disengaging from a relationship with kindness and care. They want to separate in a way to allows them to be good to one another. This is something I can help with too. Some clinicians feel that all relationships must be saved. I recognize that sometimes relationships need to end or transition into a friendship or something else.
My wish for couples is that more of them will begin to turn to couples therapy as a preventative measure - a way to learn to take care of their investment in one another and learn skills to help keep their relationship joyful and strong.
What brings people to relationship and couples therapy?
Relationship issues that I have worked with have included communication problems, sexual issues, navigating consensual non-monogamy, deepening sexual fulfillment and exploring fantasies, recovering from affairs and infidelity and co-parenting issues. When working with relationships, I sometimes give exercises to practice at home between sessions.